As an interior designer, I am naturally inclined to always be thinking about space, dreaming up new concepts, and itching to implement them as soon as possible. That's great when it comes to our client's homes, but with my own home, it can be sometimes feel exhausting. While we're feeling more and more established as we enter into our thirties, as business grows, and as we settle into our home and community, it can sometimes feel like we're living in the "not yet" or "almost there". Does anyone else feel that??
It's pretty typical for our team to be working with substantial budgets when it comes to client projects. That said, I for one know that not everyone has a designer-furniture budget. It can sometimes be discouraging when we don't have the funds to utilize the quality furnishings that we're putting int our clients spaces, or even the option to completely redo a whole space at one time. But in the last year, I've started to cultivate a GRACE for my space that acknowledges that our homes—much like ourselves—will always be a work in progress.
In case you didn't notice, comparison is a killer of joy. I'm a young professional, and if I can toot my own horn, I'd say I have pretty great taste. But being able to recognize something as excellent doesn't always correspond to your skill level in a particular area. I grew up in competitive dance, and you learn to recognize excellent technique and artistry far before you come to master it yourself—if you ever do. Which can be very discouraging at times! I think it's a reason why so many creatives give up on creating. And it's also why it is so very important to learn to give yourself GRACE in the process, and to not compare your work to someone else's, especially if they are farther down the path than you.
When I first started, I had good interior design taste, but I'll be the first to say that I was not the greatest designer in the world! It's amazing to me to see how my style and skill in design has grown and changed, even in the five short years I've been on this journey. The challenge is that it's so easy to compare your early steps of the journey to someone who has been in the biz for years—social media is horrible for this!!
For that reason, I've actually made a point to unfollow most designers on Instagram, save for two or three whose styles truly inspire me. It's too much pressure! Don't compare yourself—or your space, or your skills—to anyone but yourself, because that's how you measure growth.
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